Getting Into the Swingers Lifestyle

            So, you want to get into the swingers lifestyle?  You’ve heard all the rumors, read all the stories on the web, and you feel like trying it out, but you don’t know how.  First things first, and even though this seems like a no brainer, you’d be surprised how often this is overlooked; if you are a man, you will probably only ever gain entry into the community if you have a partner who is as equally as interested as you.  Swingers don’t want some creepy single dude hanging around trying to have sex with their wife when he didn’t bring anyone to the party.  Single females have a better shot, however, as rules at most swingers clubs allow that most single men are not permitted, but single females are welcome.  Secondly, make sure you and your partner are absolutely sure you wish to do this and you know what you are getting into.  The swinging lifestyle works only with a couple who is open and honest with good communication skills. 

            Okay, now the question is:  where do I begin?  First, the web is an excellent resource. In fact, Alt Adult Finder is the perfect place to start.  Once you have jumped headfirst into the community, you will learn about happenings in the community that are close to your location.

            A lot of swingers clubs have different nights open for newcomers, and many swinging couples are open to meeting with new couples.  Dances at swingers clubs are just like any other club.  When you first come to the club you may need to meet with the owner to register, but the vast majority of people in the swinging community are nice, open and welcoming people, so don’t be nervous.  Couples may invite you over for a drink, ask you to dance, or even invite you to meet up with them again or later for some private fun.  Make sure you have discussed with your partner beforehand what you are comfortable with, and what the boundaries will be.  Don’t be afraid to decline offers from other couples. In the swingers world, couples strictly abide by “no means no”. It is considered a golden rule.  You will undoubtedly make new friends, get some numbers, and maybe even see someone you know from the community. Swingers come in all shapes, sizes, and types of people.  Just be prepared!

            If you are meeting with a couple, pick a public place like a restaurant or a bar to meet.  This will give everyone involved a chance to meet and learn each other’s boundaries and what they expect from the encounter.  You may be nervous at first, but that’s okay.  Just know that you are not committed to anything you don’t want to do. 

After the night, make sure you discuss with your partner what you thought and enjoyed about the evening, what you didn’t enjoy and what you were turned off by.  As mentioned before, communication is the key in a swinging relationship, and openly and honestly assessing the evening will enable you to change your boundaries if you need to and give you a better idea of what you are interested in as a couple.  Knowing what you each expect and enjoy will allow you to have an enjoyable open relationship.